Stardew Valley – How to Get Married

Learn how to woo the love of your life and build a better life with them.
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Stardew Valley is all about building a life for yourself in a struggling country city. Tasked with rebuilding the farm of their late grandfather, players travel to a country town on the verge of disappearing forever. There they must rebuild not only their farm, but the city itself to help Stardew Valley become the bustling center of farming that it used to be. Nobody wants to live in the country alone, though, and in this article, we’ll be going over all the information you need to know to find a spouse and get married in Stardew Valley.

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How to Get Married

In order to get married in Stardew Valley, players must first build up a relationship with the person that they wish to marry. Like previous games in the genre, players will need to find the things that the person they want to woo likes and dislikes, and then work towards filling up an eight-heart meter. Once you have acquired eight hearts in a relationship, it’s time to take the next step. Head to Pierre’s Grocery Store and purchase a special bouquet. Then, present the bouquet to the villager that you have chosen to woo. This will begin the romantic portion of the relationship.

You aren’t quite there yet, though. You’ll also need to save up 5,000 Gold and purchase a Mermaid’s Pendant from the Old Mariner who can only be found on rainy days, down at the beach. You’ll also need to have rebuilt the beach on the bridge, and have purchased at least one upgrade for your home. Once you have accomplished all this, purchase the pendant, and then present it to the villager that you would like to marry. Three days later you will tie the knot with a wedding ceremony.

Life After Marriage

Getting married doesn’t mean you can just stop paying attention to your spouse, though. In fact, you’ll need to pay just as much attention to them after marriage as you did before, unless you just don’t care about things going sour. This can be accomplished by simply spending time with them, buying them gifts, or just being a part of their lives on a daily basis. Whatever you do, don’t ignore them for very long, or you’re going to run into some problems.

How to Woo Your Spouse

Now that you know how to get married, let’s take a look at all the things you need to know about the spouse system in Stardew Valley. Each character that you can woo likes different things. We’ve broken them down below, so take a look at each character, see which one likes which things, and then go from there.

Abigail 

  • Loves: Amethyst, Blackberry Cobbler, Chocolate Cake, Pufferfish, Pumpkin and Spicy Eel
  • Likes: Blue Jazz, Clams, Cookies, Crocus, Earth Crystal, Emeralds, Fire Quartz, Honey, Ice Cream, Maple Syrup, Mayonnaise, Pizza, Quartz, Salad, Sweet Peas, Topaz and Tulips
  • Hates: Clay, Joja Cola, Slime, Stone, Sugar, Wheat Flour and Wild Horseradish 

Sebastian

  • Loves: Fire Quartz, Frozen Tear, Pumpkin Soup and Sashimi
  • Likes: Baked Fish, Cookies, Earth Crystal, Fried Calamari, Maki Roll, Pumpkin, Quartz, Salad, Spaghetti, and Tomatoes 

Alex

  • Loves: Complete Breakfast and Salmon Dinner
  • Likes:  Eggs, Kale, Pizza and Spaghetti
  • Hates: Clay, Poppies, Quartz, Salmonberry, Stone and Wild Horseradish

Haley 

  • Loves: Coconut, Fruit Salad, Pink Cake and Sunflowers
  • Likes: Amethyst, Aquamarine, Cookie, Daffodil, Frozen Tear, Ice Cream, Mayonnaise, Pizza, Salad, Sweet Peas, Topaz, Tulips and Wild Honey
  • Hates: Clay, Dandelion, Eggs, Fruits, Greens, Joja Cola, Milk, Quartz, Stone, Vegetables and Wild Horseradish

Leah

  • Loves: Poppy seed Muffins, Salad, Stir Fry, Vegetable Stew and Wine
  • Likes: Bok Choy, Dandelion, Eggs, Fruit, Greens, Milk, Morel and Pale Ale
  • Hates: Bread, Cave Carrot, Clay, Pizza, Poppies, Seaweed, Smallmouth Bass and Void Eggs 

Elliott

  • Loves: Crab Cakes, Duck Feather, Lobster and Tom Kha Soup
  • Likes:  Amethyst, Beer, Chowder, Crystal Fruit, Fish Stew, Octopus, Squid and Wine
  • Hates: Amaranth, Quartz, Salmonberry, Sea Cucumber and Stone

Maru 

  • Loves: Battery Pack, Cheese Cauliflower, Diamond, Gold Bar, Iridium Bar, Miner’s Treat, Pepper Poppers, Rhubarb Pie and Strawberries
  • Likes: Amethyst, Copper Bar, Crocus, Earth Crystal, Frozen Tear, Iron Bar, Quartz, Pizza and Sweet Pea
  • Hates: Clay, Poppies, Salmonberry, Soapstone, Spring Onion, Stone and Wild Honey

 Penny

  • Loves: Diamond, Emerald, Melon, Poppies, Red Plate, Roots Platter, Sandfish and Tom Kha Soup
  • Likes: Amethyst, Cheese, Corn, Dandelion, Holly, Leeks, Pizza, Sunflowers, Sweet Peas and Tulips
  • Hates: Clay, Fish, Grapes, Hops, Pale Ale, Quartz, Spring Onion and Stone

Harvey

  • Loves: Coffee, Lobster Bisque, Pickles, Super Meal, Truffle Oil and Wine
  • Likes: Blackberries, Corn, Daffodil, Duck Eggs, Duck Feathers, Goat Milk, Grapes, Parsnip, Potato, Purple Mushrooms, and Spring Onions
  • Hates: Clay, Coral, Green Algae, Hay, Nautilus Shell, Rainbow Shell, Red Mushroom, Salmonberry, Sap, Sea Urchin, Spice Berry, Stone, Sugar, White Algae

Sam

  • Loves: Cactus Fruit, Maple Bar and Pizza
  • Likes: Earth Crystal, Egg, Ice Cream and Joja Cola
  • Hates: Clay, Daffodil, Hay, Mayonnaise, Quartz, Seaweed and Stone
  • Hates: Clay, Complete Breakfast, Copper Ore, Daffodil, Eggs, Farmer’s Lunch, Greens, Joja Cola, Omelet, Pale Ale, Purple Mushroom and Stone

That’s everything you need to know about marriage in Stardew Valley. Spending your entire life alone isn’t very fun, so make sure you take a look at the information we’ve provided above and find yourself a good spouse to help you take care of your grandfather’s farm. We’ll be covering more Stardew Valley guides and tips over the coming days, so make sure to stay tuned to our website for more information to help you make the most of your grandfather’s farm.


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About the Author

Josh Hawkins

Josh has been exploring fantastic worlds and getting lost in video games for as long as he can remember. Starting out on the Super Nintendo with Super Mario World, and ending up in the world of next-generation gaming. He enjoys digging into the story and lore of massive RPGs, as well as getting lost just trying to make that last jump in any platformers he gets pulled into, as well as everything in between. He holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Creative Writing for Entertainment.